I sadly remember my son saying to his brother, “Just forget it, she is not going to stop drinking for us.”
The last two years since I have been actively trying to quit I have let me boys know. When they would see me pour wine they would gasp and say I thought you quit! I had to reply with some lame reason or just ignore them.
My biggest go to line was;
It’s a bad habit. Just like if I asked you to stop playing video games right now, forever. It’s hard.
They kind of got that. But what I couldn’t put into words was;
NO, this is not about you kids! Leave me alone! This is all about ME! I can do whatever I want!
Drinking is selfish, but so is quitting. It is all about me.