So how does one implement “REST” into an action?
My friends & family were waiting with anticipation when I said “I have picked a new word of the year and it’s…..”
(I mean, after THE YEAR OF YES and all its enormity, they were really expecting something big…)
And it was REST. I could see the letdown in their faces.
Then I saw their faces melt wistfully. Daydreaming about what REST felt like to them. I watched shoulders soften, eyes glaze over and jaws go slack. Then they looked back at me and said…HUH!??
REST means to me
- Not allowing thinking in my bed. I put a notebook on the end table and anytime a worrisome or to-do thought happens it gets jotted in the notebook. The first few days I was amazed at all the worry I brought to bed with me!
- Trying some new ideas for my bed. A couple nights I watched tv shows in bed instead of the chair.
- In the car – On the way to school and work, my son said, I wish I could tell you to REST now Mom but you’re driving. Ah ha! But I can REST while driving! After dropping him off, I listened to a Yoga Church Podcast, instead of plotting and planning the work day.
- At work – I enlisted the help of the staff to let me know when I was showing signs of stress or using the word STRESS instead of naming the emotion. This has been extremely valuable. I am frustrated, tired, sad, mad. It stops me and them. We pause and try to figure out a “feeling”. It is truly amazing that so many of us do not have language skills to describe our emotions. Just the word stress…..
- Dealing with my finances daily. I check my personal checking every morning, make adjustments and move on. It doesn’t hang over my head all day long that way.
- Asking (and letting) people help.
- Not Drinking – I just told my dog – Obviously you are not going to rest until I let you lick my plate. (don’t judge 😉 REST defined as an overwhelming thought process and agitation until goal is achieved. When achieved, relaxation, and in the dog world, napping on the couch. Sounds suspiciously like drinking to unwind and passing out. REST gives me the relaxation without going into panicked actions. If I hadn’t started letting the dog lick plates he wouldn’t be a beggar now. This is why abstaining from alcohol is better for me. It makes me less of a dog.
- And speaking of dog – REST means when I come home from work I stop and HUG THE DOG FOR ONE MINUTE. I used to race around, Where are the kids?! Have they eaten?! Close the blinds! Why are all the lights on?! Get the mail! I need to eat!!!!!! Now, drop my bags and hug it out.
I was hoping that REST wouldn’t become a lazy word of the year. I have to say,