Day 9 – More Co-dependency

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I spent my favorite early morning hours cleaning all the old PDF and screen shots from my Nook. I discovered two pages that I captured months ago that are so fitting right now, especially about the “craziness returns unprovoked“. This is from the classic Ann Beatty, Co-Dependent No More. I now see my friend is classic co-dependent too. Great…. lol.

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9 thoughts on “Day 9 – More Co-dependency

  1. What strikes me about this is that it must be what my children feel like. They had a mother who drank too much. (And a father, but that’s another story.) This is what drinking produces in children.
    Although this would be heartbreaking if I were reading it while still drinking, I’ve been able to let go of those kinds of feelings, for the most part. I always tell my kids I don’t believe in guilt. And it’s true, but thinking it and actually feeling that way are not the same thing.

    But the alcohol also taught them about denial, and I doubt they would take this seriously. It does break my heart when they say things like “I don’t remember you drinking that much” because I know they just want to smooth things over and deny the reality and how it affected them.

    You’ve given me a lot to think about. Thank you for posting this. Since my parents weren’t drinkers, I don’t have the first-hand experience of co-dependancy. I wonder why I have so many of the characteristics myself?
    xoxo

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    • Co-dependency isnt born from drinking. It is a stand alone thing. (But it has been argued that every addiction starts from co-dependency.) The woman who wrote this book was writing from an alcoholic view point. I bet there are other books on this without that slant. Let me know if you find anything. I would also like to explore more on this topic.

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  2. Hi Lori!
    I am rereading that book, because I found myself in a codependent relationship with a girl friend.
    It was so strange to find myself hooked, and now figuring how to set those boundaries, and get unhooked.
    xo
    Wendy

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