I made a choice yesterday to give away a client. I had discovered that beyond, what I would call general assholiness, he is physically abusive to his wife. The only reason I have stayed with the client, is the girl who works for him. She and I have worked very hard to clean up a bookkeeping mess over the last 5 years. We emailed yesterday personally and she said she realizes how he is abusive to her in the workplace and she suspected his physical abuse at home. I told her I was letting him go.

There is new management at another office so I offered the client to them first. I went to meet them and realized very quickly that they do not have the skills to do the job. They just looked at the dollar sign of this big client.

Now, I am questioning my decision.

Growing up I could never figure out why people or jobs accepted my dad after his abuse. And the same after my ex cheated. I walked away from both and though I forgave for my own sake, never put trust in them again. In town, people just shrugged off and continued to do business with them. I chose not to do business with a contractor after he cheated & left and I watched his wife & girls fall apart. Then recently I came home to my normal contractor, who needed an extra hand, and there was the cheater. I about puked. Granted, this happened over 15 years ago, but it still makes me sick.

I think, after writing this out, that I’m going to have to walk away from all my hard work and let it fall apart. I can’t support that man or his business.

5 thoughts on “Dilemma

  1. I didn’t know they made cheaters and abusers wear signs where you live. So that other people can tell them apart from everyone else… do the reformed abusers get a different sign? I think you need to reread your post from a less victimized point of view. And I am a victim as well, so don’t be too presumptuous.


    • I soooo fight the victim mentality. Just like you caught it, I can’t see it. (But I can spot it In others!! Lol.) Very sincerely, thank you for pointing it out. Maybe I don’t have a dilemma, maybe I just need to trust how I feel and not worry how others will see it.

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      • You hit the nail on the head. It’s not easy, but the fact you were able to look at my comment objectively says you’ve got what it takes to lead a supremely happy life. That’s a special quality to have. Most aren’t so fortunate.

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  2. Hmmm. I understand. Would be a hard decision, do you keep your business hat on or your personal hat.
    I know people I care about have done some not so good things, but I can’t control that. All I can do is live my life with good values.


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