The End is Near…


Crazy busy end of tax season!

This is the first tax season where I am content and not exhausted at the end. I have a new walking buddy arranged as soon as school is out. I have another new friend who gardens. I see why women have girlfriends. I’ve never had many and this is a fun change.

I have quite a few seeds started for my garden and can’t wait to get digging. My new lawn chairs arrived yesterday. My side tables are covered with seed catalogs and gardening magazines.

I’ve worked the last three months with Alison at TeeTotallyFit and am going to start my next three months after these final 11 days of work. It hasn’t been easy trying to do this while working but I’m getting the excuses worked out that keep me from not drinking and not getting off my butt!! I’m feeling more at peace and am looking forward to making more changes.

My Year of Change is slow, but I’m loving the overall happiness it’s bringing.




Boy did the chapter on lonliness hit hard. I still feel like I can’t catch my breath. Definitely some soul searching needs to happen on this topic.

I want to enjoy cleaning


One of the things I think I will enjoy when tax season is over and I have months of free time is….cleaning. I imagine puttering around the house, having time to gut a room or rearrange a drawer.

I wonder what my neighbor, who has 4 children, a business and a home decorating blog mean when they say, “I was just at Target and found this sweet little rug for the bath.”

I want that.

I want that perceived “feeling” that there is time in life to shop without duress. Time to marvel at a small thing. Time to put all else aside and look at the beauty of change.

I imagine the only way she can have this, is because everything else in her life is in perfect order so she can then do her passion.

The reality…she is just like me. Our kids are friends and she has struggles in life of course. But what I envy is her ease with clean, simple & beautiful. She is wonderful to be around because she is calm.

I’m the bull in the china shop. I’m loud and lumbering and my home does not give me peace. It’s messy, dirty and dark. I make excuses. My math heavy brain has a hard time with beauty and light.

I think if I had more time then I could enjoy this “feeling” of bonding with my home.

I’m finally to the point of not taking care of kids. They fend well for themselves and now I’m really just the entertainment committee. My excuse of parenting is over. My excuse of work is almost over for the season. I really have no more excuse of not choosing myself first.

Of the IG, Pinterest ideas I follow and save, this is the one I have not truly done for myself. I cook and garden, but somewhere I have a passion for a pretty home that I just can’t figure out. It has always seemed a bit frivolous. Kind of like pretty clothes. I need comfort and function and I never quite match. My home feels the same.

I have been a bit restless thinking about just gardening and cooking this summer. I might change my course and work on my home instead. Try to find that “feeling” of being in love with my home.



I want to give a shout out to donuts and ice cream🍦for helping me through the week.

And last night I was freezing. I had a cup of decaf. Bad idea. I was still awake at midnight. I finally got up and had two mini bagels loaded with butter, two big glasses of apple juice an a benadryl/alleve tablet. The carb equivalent of a bottle of wine with a sleep chaser. Full belly & lots of sugar put me in sleep coma finally.

Also, don’t read Molly’s Game before bed!! Can’t put it down and it’s loaded with excitement. The movie is excellent too!!

End of 4


Tried to do a good thing and celebrate ending a tough day and ordered pizza. Instead of getting what I wanted I got something they might like. Ended up no one liked it. Must remember to not put kids first when it’s MY celebration!!

I shall redeem myself and order MORE food just for me today. Lol

Hanging in there…


Accomplished three days of no drinking and work is in full swing for me.

My blurry vision was due to dirty contacts & dry eyes & getting older. The more dry the eye, the more tears and the tears have protein which sticks to the contacts. So new contacts ordered & a change of cleaning solution and stronger readers. Easy (but expensive!) fix.

The “exercise routine” lol, is finally kicking in due to lack of drinking. Since I’m moving from chair potato to *ahem* athlete… Alison helped me design some basic range of motion activities. Stretching, balance, strength stuff. From doing yoga my balance is great! She has me starting at much less than if I was in charge. I’m more or a “feel bad about myself when I can’t get it right the first time and quit girl”. (See last 5 years of sober blog posts – lol)

I want to write more, but I’m going to get out of the chair & do my exercises.